Just when you thought the camp trip ended, it trips you up again. So he and/or they thought you were ebullient about being a nomad. Being able to heal yourself and work through so many different broken variables. Only to be awakened by the particulate matter that has shaken your nest. You see, some people come back in your life to inadvertently start a fire while you are out enjoying a smoke screen-free lifestyle. They have no sense of direction about their life and neither truly understand what they want out of theirs. So, inadvertently, they try to pry on your life to also aide others who are out to hurt you because they are simply, hurting. (You know how that cliche goes, hurt people hurt people). They will always show you their cards in hand and display all the red flags in the beginning because they lack the skills of playing the manipulative / relationship acumen to not even realize the person you’re trying to manipulate is onto you.

In case you are lost or didn’t follow the previous thought, dealing with someone who only want to rekindle to get information out of you is easier to cope with than you think.

• Do not ignore the signs and stand your ground.

• If you notice what they are doing you have a few options here. Be honest with them. Do not do it outright, you could talk about something else before you drop the bomb on why you think they are around so you can get a feel for their reaction.

• If you do not like the way they continue to make you feel. Let them know repeatedly that you like how you all are getting to know who we are now.

• Let them know you are not waiting up for them in any way. (This is standing your ground).

• You either have a choice of letting them go completely out of your life. Or they can stay, but you’ll always have to tread carefully around them unless you can truthfully and honestly get past the situation.

• They buy time to pass on what they feel is new information.

• It will never be too long before the shit hits the fan.

But do not forget to look up. Not literally. But when you finally look up and the darkness surrounds you, remember, the universe may bring them back in your life, but always remember the stars (individual(s)) are already dead. Only you hold the light that shines (give them life) and if you can’t find the light, then there’s nothing that is keeping you there. Be the moon; learn to stand-alone and shine bright.

Do not allow people to come into your life and shake the tide of the waves. It’s like having a job opportunity and you start speaking in metaphors. That job opportunity could be very well legitimate. You can just say, hey, I have this opportunity and there’s nothing keeping me here. You have to learn how to walk and talk in circles when in conversation with people or individuals who do not mean you well. No matter how direct they’d like for you to be.

In the words of Lupe Fiasco, “Peace and much love to ya!”